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BEAUTIFUL IS WHAT YOU ARE!

“Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are.” ~ Markus Zusak

One of the biggest misconceptions I hear about being a model is that models – who are all pretty and good looking – must feel that way all of the time. That is so not true. Having a modeling contract and being able to make money off your looks doesn’t actually mean that you feel beautiful or are considered beautiful in a mainstream kind of way.

To read the full article online check out The Daily Love

 

Check Yo’ Self Awareness

Originally posted at The Daily Love

Hello Daily ‘Supermodel’ Lovers,

How are you? No, really, how are you? Let’s check in:

  • How are you feeling right now in this moment?
  • Do feel good? Tired? Happy? Bored? Anxious? Peaceful? Just kind of blah?
  • How’s your posture? Don’t tell me you’ve already forgotten your SuperModel Posture from our first blog?
  • Are you leaning to one side more than the other?
  • Are you squinting or straining your eyes while you read this or sitting way to close to the monitor?
  • How do your clothes feel? Do they fit properly or are they too tight or too big or just plain uncomfortable?
  • What is your face doing? Are you scrunching your eyebrows together? Are you frowning? Smiling?
  • What’s running in the back of your mind while you read this? What to have for dinner? A conversation you just had with someone else? Are you scrolling through your to-do list? Or are you really 100% here with me?
  • Why does all this matter anyway?

Every one of these questions matters because Self-Awareness is the first key to making any change in your life.

Without Self-Awareness, you will never have the ability to understand why you are where you are or what you need to do to get somewhere else. By developing a keen sense of Self-Awareness, you will be able to Self-Actualize all your desires. Otherwise, forget it. You’re just going to be swept along by fate, with no say in where you end up.

Although you might not have guessed this, models actually have a high level of Self-Awareness. We have to be Self-Aware because it’s part of our job to know how we look, how we photograph, how we stand, how we walk (on runways and when meeting clients), how we hold our faces, and how clothes look on us. We constantly have to be aware of our posture and the messages we are sending with our body language. This is an important aspect of being a good model.

Let me give you an example of how important this is.

One of the first jobs I did with Versace was for an event at their boutique on Rodeo Drive. They hired three models, and our job was to be mannequins, standing on top of pillars, decked out head to toe in Versace. Stacie, the VP of Marketing and Events at Versace, informed us that we had to stay as still as possible, just like real mannequins, moving only to change our position if we absolutely needed to. We were not allowed to talk to the guests, smile, or respond in any way. She also warned us to be careful because a girl in New York had actually passed out and fell off the pillar doing a job just like this one. Who knew modeling was so dangerous? (Actually, I could tell you stories–falling off a horse while shooting in Cannes, hanging out of the back of moving U-haul truck for a shoot, climbing a barbed wire fence in Paris, leaches in the water—but I’ll save those for later.)

You have no idea how incredibly hard this is! I dare you to put on the most ridiculously high and uncomfortable heels you can find, strike a mannequin-like pose, and hold it for even five minutes. The two other girls and I had to do this for much longer!

This is what happens when you have to stay still in extreme positions for an extended period of time: Your leg starts to fall asleep, or your arm, or multiple limbs at once. You start to shake, your hip starts to give, you get crazy itches you can’t scratch. On top of the physical challenge, you’ve got all these people staring at you and poking you and wondering if you’re real or freaking out when they realize you are. Or they’re trying to get you to break face.

This was the most challenging job I’ve probably ever done as a model, and I’m telling you about it because it was an amazing exercise in self-awareness. I had to gain total control over my body and mind. It was a total body workout and a meditation all in one. I felt like I consciously experienced every muscle in my body and became keenly aware of my breath, my heartbeat, and what every part of me was doing, from scalp to fingers to the bottoms of my feet.

And I was good at it! People thought I was a real mannequin. The other models had a harder time. One girl had to get down before we were finished, and the other girl kept moving or laughing when people would try to break her. Not me. Once they realized I was real, people at the event kept trying to get me to laugh. Eventually, they succeeded when an NBA player offered me a drink of his champagne, and then put his glass to my lips and started to pour his drink into my mouth. I couldn’t help laughing, but I credit my ability to do the job so well (at least up to that point) to Self-Awareness.

That lesson stayed with me. I started to notice things in my everyday life, like the fact that I tend to rest more weight on my right hip when I’m standing or washing the dishes or brushing my teeth. I also noticed that I didn’t always distribute my weight properly while walking or standing, which tired me out faster. When you distribute your body weight properly, your core will almost always be activated. Your energy will flow better, you’ll feel better, and you’ll look better, too. Most people don’t notice how they distribute their weight, how long their strides are, how well they stay balanced. When you learn to notice and then to control your weight distribution and carry yourself with awareness, you’re a lot less likely to fall, because you’re balanced. You burn more calories from having your core activated. And all that leads to greater sensitivity and Self-Awareness about what’s going on in your brain, from the thoughts that run through your head all day to the words you choose to say (helpful? hurtful?), to the decisions you make about what to eat, what to focus on, what to LOVE.

So think about this as you go through your week. Notice your body. Notice your breath. Notice your thoughts. When you are tuned in to exactly what you are doing, how you are feeling, and what you are thinking, then the decisions you make about how to take care of yourself will be informed by Self-Awareness rather than habit. And that’s exactly where you want to be.

 

You & Your Inner Supermodel Need Your Beauty

Originally posted at The Daily Love

Hi Daily Lovers,

Thank you for reading, commenting, posting, and liking my first-ever blog, Mastering Your Dream Body & Life! Check it out in case you missed it. Even for the few of you who commented less than positively, I completely respect your opinions and understand your hesitation. After all, my industry isn’t exactly known for being healthy. I want to assure you, however, that my message is about health, happiness, and all the things that The Daily Love stands for. There is positive and negative in anything, and my mission is to focus on the positive and all the things I can offer the world based on this attitude and perspective. Model Skinny will give you the skinny–the healthy secrets I love and live by–to finding your inner Supermodel!

But speaking of staying positive, let me tell you a little lesson I’ve already learned from this whole blogging experience.

When I found out the blog would post the next morning, I got crazy anxious. I was scared, excited, nervous and all the normal things that go along with typical “firsts”.  The downside was that I didn’t sleep as well, which is a total model no-no. When your job is based on your looks, beauty sleep takes on a whole new meaning (this is a huge reason why Sleep is one of the 5 keys to Model Skinny that I told you about in the first blog).

So there I was, exhausted and nervous and feeling obsessed because I was so tired. I had a fashion show on the day the blog posted, and suddenly I turned into the very nightmare diva model you might expect me to be. I didn’t want to listen to anyone, I didn’t want to sit still for hair and makeup or stand while the seamstress tailored my skirt. All I cared about was the blog; all I thought about was the blog.  I wanted people to resonate with my message. And I was excited to share and be a part of The Daily Love. What would happen? Would I do it correctly? Would my words help people?

But at the same time, I knew I’d neglected the second Key: Sleep. So I was able to catch myself and stop myself from going too far down that road. When I heard there were some negative comments being posted, I had to take an extra effort to recognize that criticism is a part of my job, and as a model, I am constantly scrutinized and judged. Yet because I didn’t get enough sleep, I was not at the top of my game, which made staying positive harder, but also showed me the power of the keys.  I realized that no matter how much practice you have at staying balanced, it’s still something you have to work on and it’s easier when you get enough sleep.

So I want to talk a little bit about sleep. Sleep is essential to our well-being and functioning, and most people don’t get enough. We all need at least 7 1/2 hours according to the National Sleep Foundation, but the average woman only gets six. And being well rested is directly related to finding your inner Supermodel. Studies shows that people tend to weigh more if they sleep less. Researchers at Columbia University found that people who slept six hours per night were 23% more likely to be obese than people who slept between seven and nine hours.

And according to sleep expert Michael Breus, M.D., sleep-deprived women are high in ghrelin — the hormone that stimulates hunger — and low in leptin — the hormone that says you’re full and can stop eating. Plus, not only do you want more food when you’re sleep-deprived, you also wantjunkier food: your body craves simple carbohydrates (chocolate, pastries, candy) that it can break down fast for quick energy.

Not getting enough sleep can throw off your attempts to stay balanced in all the other Keys, too—it makes you feel more stressed (Key 3), it messes with your appetite, so you aren’t balanced in your eating  (Key 4), and it saps your energy so you’re less inclined to exercise (Key 5).

These are all reasons why sleep is a priority for models. I’m not suggesting that all models are necessarily choosing to sleep more for all these reasons. Some might only know that if they don’t sleep, they won’t look good for that morning photo shoot. God forbid a model would have dark circles under her eyes! But ‘beauty sleep’ is not just a catchy little phrase; it’s a scientifically proven principle and one that models live by. Lack of sleep really does show up on your face. You might have more fine lines and wrinkles, less radiant skin, dark circles under your eyes, more frown lines and tension lines, an uneven complexion, not to mention an expression that looks dull and uninvolved in life. When you sleep, your skin is rejuvenated. New skin cells replace old dead skin, resulting in a fresher looking face (the kind not just models but every girl wants!).

Obviously, we all need energy and mental control to make good choices in life. So what if your job isn’t based on your looks? That doesn’t mean that you want under-eye circles, low energy, a rampant appetite, wrinkles or added stress. We all want to look good, feel good, and be our best. And we all can and should. But we need to get enough sleep!

So in that spirit, I want to close with 3 tips on Zzz’s and how to get the most out of yours:

  1. PrioritiZe  Your Zzz’s: It’s important. Make it a priority. Aim for 8 hours of sleep a night.  That late night movie, night on the town, late night sex, etc. , will be a lot more fun when you’re actually awake.
  2. RitualiZe Your Zzz’s: Routines are habits. And habits control our lives. When you routinize your pre-sleep habits, by lowering the light at night to induce melatonin (the sleep hormone) or by taking a bath or whatever suits you, a sound night’s sleep becomes a habit. Ritualize it and pretty soon you’ll be sleeping like a baby.
  3. AccessoriZe Your Zzz’s: I’m a fashion model, so naturally we have to talk about accessories! Sleep masks, relaxing essential oils, good pillows, and even ear plugs can all enhance your sleep experience. Find out what works for you, then use them without apology.

Because you and your inner Supermodel need your beauty sleep!

with Eve Adamson, NY Times Bestselling Author. Her website: http://www.eveadamson.com/

 

Mastering Your Dream Body Life

Originally posted at The Daily Love

So, you know how you’ll never forget that 1st real kiss? Or your 1st love? Or your 1st …well…you know…your 1st time?

Recently, in front of a huge audience, I gave my 1st public speech ever. I also just got my 1st book contract to write my very 1st book. And this is my 1st blog post ever.

So I hope you’ll bear with me if I’m a little bit nervous, but I’m going to do this because I’m so excited about sharing my message with you—my message about how to attractyour dream body, skinny, tone, voluptuous, or whatever suits you while being healthy at the same time. And my message about models.

Because you probably have some misconceptions about us.

But in this first blog post, I just want to start by telling you the truth: It wasn’t until I stopped killing myself at the gym and started eating more that I lost more than 20 pounds, was able to attain the ideal body for my frame, and go on to become a successful international fashion model and, more recently, author.

I know it sounds crazy. I know. It’s even crazier that a model who isn’t a doctor, a dietician or a nutritionist can teach you how to get your ideal body. But it’s true. If a ditzy model can figure it out, then anyone can.

The place to begin is where—and who–you are. Obviously, you can’t grow six inches, or go from a double A to a double D (well, not unless you see a plastic surgeon). But you can have the body of your dreams and still be healthy. You are gorgeous, and you don’t need a magazine cover or a modeling contract to feel that way.

But maybe the body of your dreams haunts you and you haven’t been able to get there. So you may be curious about me. As a model, the million-dollar questions I get asked all day long are:

1. “How do you stay so thin?”

2. “What do you eat?”

3. “What exercises do you do?”

4. “Do models really starve themselves and live off gum and cigarettes?”

Surprisingly, most skinny models don’t really workout, don’t diet, don’t starve themselves, don’thave poor self-images and are not anymore blessed than the rest of the world. Me included! They eat what they want to eat, they move the way they feel like moving and they don’t starve themselves.

It’s a lot easier than you might think.  What I discovered is that there are basically only five key elements that determine body weight. This applies to everyone. I call them the Five Keys to Model Skinny, but they are ultimately the keys to your dream body, whatever that is: skinny, toned, voluptuous, athletic…the healthiest version of you. Life is about realizing your dreams and this is about finding your dream body, not the one the media has brainwashed you into thinking is ideal.

But by adopting a model’s mentality and by “modeling” a healthy model’s behavior, you will not only be able to attract the body you want, but you will feel better, look better and you’ll be more confident, healthier, happier and boost your self-esteem.

Each week I will show you how to master these keys like a supermodel. From the makeup chair to the runway, it is my honor to share with you the secrets to unlocking not just your dream body, but your dream life!

But I won’t leave you hanging. Here is a sneak preview to the five keys, which I’ll explain in more detail in subsequent blogs (and in my upcoming book, Model Skinny):

1. Self-Awareness

2. Sleep

3. Stress

4. Eating

5. Moving

Those are the five keys and I have so much to tell you about them, but I’ll keep it short and sweet for now. I’m really looking forward to sharing more secrets, tips, techniques and stories about the healthy habits of models, and how you can live the life and have the body of your dreams. So stay tuned, but until then, sit up tall, take a deep breath, roll your shoulders back, hold your core in and notice how much better you feel…. (Do IT! You cannot read on until you do it.) :)

Research shows that good posture improves your circulation, makes you feel better, makes you look better, makes you appear more confident and actually burns calories! Plus, it automatically makes you look 10 pounds lighter! Posture is the 1st thing a model learns and is essential to creating the body awareness, Key 1, that you need.

So for the rest of the day, assume your Supermodel Posture and notice how much better you feel and look!

Stay Healthy, LoVe YOURSELF, and Shine!